Tara Suwinyattichaiporn
Thai-born tenured professor of Human Communication Studies at California State University, Fullerton, sex and relationship educator, and author of How Do You Like It?
Tara Suwinyattichaiporn (Thai-born tenured professor of Human Communication Studies at California State University, Fullerton, sex and relationship educator, and author of How Do You Like It?) has appeared as a guest on 1 episode in TMT. Topics they speak about most include Sexless marriage, Sexual satisfaction, Loneliness among Generation Z.
In their words
Positions and remarks grouped by topic, each with the exact quote and where it was said.
Sexless marriage
Suwinyattichaiporn says people typically quiet quit their relationships six to twelve months before asking for divorce, as she did.
“people usually quiet quit their relationship six to 12 months before they ask for a divorce”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 2:27:49
Suwinyattichaiporn argues that a sexless marriage is a symptom of deeper relational issues rather than just a sex problem.
“sexless marriage is a symptom of something deeper. It's not just about sex. Sex is never just about sex”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 56:33
Suwinyattichaiporn estimates from professional experience that about half of people married over 15 years have not had sex in a long time.
“half the people that have been married for over 15 years that I've talked to haven't had sex in a long time”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 28:57
Sexual satisfaction
Suwinyattichaiporn cites research that the most sexually satisfied couples have sex at least once a week, stressing quality over quantity.
“Research found that the happiest couples, most sexually satisfied couples have sex at least once a week”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 2:00:18
Suwinyattichaiporn says research shows people who meditate or do yoga have better sex lives because of their ability to stay present.
“people that meditate, research found that they have a better sex life. People that do yoga, research found that they have a better sex life”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 1:09:57
Suwinyattichaiporn believes the one-third dissatisfaction figure from her study is conservative because of survey response biases.
“one third is conservative. I think it's more, but due to when people take surveys, you know, they have biases”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 50:19
Loneliness among Generation Z
Suwinyattichaiporn recommends teaching Gen Z critical thinking and digital literacy to counter divisive social media content between young men and women.
“I think teaching Gen Zs critical thinking and digital literacy, these are two things that are very, very important”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 3:20:52
Suwinyattichaiporn cites a statistic that young adults' weekly in-person social time fell from 12 hours to five.
“their weekly social time, like in person, hang out with friends in person, used to be 12 hours and now it's five”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 2:57:08
Sexual communication
Suwinyattichaiporn claims regular non-sexual touch improves a couple's sex life more than touch that signals a request for sex.
“non-sexual touch is better for your sex life. Non-sexual touch regularly is better for your sex life”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 2:42:50
Suwinyattichaiporn says her study found sexual communication to be the strongest predictor of long-term sexual satisfaction.
“based on my study, we know now that sexual communication is the strongest predictor of long-term sexual satisfaction”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 14:12
Pornography
Suwinyattichaiporn argues porn's harm depends on whether consumption is mindful or mindless, with mindless use being extremely damaging.
“is it mindful or mindless consumption? If it's mindless consumption, it is extremely damaging and detrimental”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 3:22:45
Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors
Suwinyattichaiporn argues that Gen Z is heavily medicated and that SSRI use is correlated with low sex drive.
“There is a correlation between low sex drive and taking SSRI”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 3:09:06
Declining birth rates in the United States
Suwinyattichaiporn disclosed her own fertility struggles and said each IVF-type round cost at least $15,000, putting treatment out of reach for many peers.
“each round was like at least 15 000 each round and you have to do multiple usually”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 2:52:52
Toxic masculinity
Suwinyattichaiporn argues that military-style regimentation and emotional closure conflict with the vulnerability that sex requires.
“you cannot be emotionally vulnerable. You have to be mentally tough and stay on course with these strict rules”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 2:17:45
Sexual fetishism
Suwinyattichaiporn states that foot fetish is the most common fetish in the world and the United States.
“The most common fetish in the world and in the United States is foot fetish”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 2:13:07
Interpersonal attraction
Suwinyattichaiporn contends that although women will say personality matters most, task attractiveness such as capability and financial stability is actually most important to them.
“due to social desirability, women will say personality first. But if I have to be really honest”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 38:23
Sexual compatibility
Suwinyattichaiporn argues that sexual chemistry cannot grow over time, contrary to some online experts, while compatibility can.
“I think that's my controversial opinion is chemistry part, it's either you have it or you don't. I don't think it grows over time”
The Shawn Ryan Show: #308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are Failing (May 28, 2026) · Listen from 16:33
Appearances
#308 Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn - TikTok's #1 Sex Educator on Why Relationships Are FailingThe Shawn Ryan Show · May 28, 2026 · 3 h 29 min
Shawn Ryan interviews sex educator Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn about sexual communication, attraction, kink, masculinity, Gen Z loneliness, dating apps and porn.
Often appears with
- Shawn Ryan · 1 shared episode