Nadège
French-American sex scholar, dominatrix, and author behind Pleasure Science
Nadège (French-American sex scholar, dominatrix, and author behind Pleasure Science) has appeared as a guest on 1 episode in TMT. Topics they speak about most include Scheduled intimacy, Manosphere, Sex work.
In their words
Positions and remarks grouped by topic, each with the exact quote and where it was said.
Scheduled intimacy
Nadège says studies show couples have more spontaneous sex when they schedule sex or intimacy.
“studies show you have more spontaneous sex when you schedule sex or intimacy”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 5:08
Nadège says scheduling sex is good but scheduling pressure-free intimacy playdates is better.
“So scheduling sex is good. Scheduling intimacy playdates is better”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 3:17
Nadège recommends that struggling couples stop having sex in the evening, since most adults lack energy then.
“if they're struggling with sex, one of the first things I look at is what time of the day are you having sex?”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 2:28
Manosphere
Nadège suggests the manosphere itself creates simps because figures like Andrew Tate act as magnetic bullies toward their audiences.
“I feel like the manosphere movement creates simps. Because Andrew Tate and all of these big guys are kind of like magnetic bullies”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 42:09
Nadège says her main critique of the manosphere is that its leaders profit by turning weak men into drones.
“My biggest critique is that the men at the top of the manosphere are just creating drones out of these men who are weak”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 36:34
Sex work
Nadège claims that porn and sex work do not rank among the top 10 industries for sexual harassment.
“of the top 10 industries in the entire world where sexual harassment happens, porn and sex work doesn't even make the top 10”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 13:26
Nadège recounts that a client couple, in which the wife became chronically ill, resolved their mismatched libido by having the husband see sex workers within agreed boundaries.
“he just started seeking out brothels and sex workers and he was able to get his sexual needs met”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 6:03
Astrology
Nadège claims that chakra locations align with the hot spots of the endocrine system.
“All of the centers that the chakras are aligned in in the tantra practice are the hot spots in the endocrine system”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 47:00
Masculinity
Nadège argues that masculinity is self-defined and that letting others define it undermines a person's power.
“the biggest lie that will take you away from your power is letting other people tell you what masculinity is”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 43:44
Jealousy
Nadège describes jealousy as a compass that reveals what a person wants.
“I love thinking of jealousy as a compass. You only get jealous when someone has what you want”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 34:40
Inside the Manosphere (Louis Theroux documentary)
Nadège disputes that the documentary was a hit piece, saying Louis Theroux was fairly generous and gentle.
“i thought that louis thoreau was kind of being generous and gentle to a degree”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 38:10
Matriarchy and patriarchy
Nadège defines matriarchy as a child-centered, rather than woman-centered, social organization.
“patriarchy is where men are the center. Right. And in matriarchy, children are the center”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 19:55
History of marriage
Nadège argues that the legal marriage system arose with patriarchy to let men protect their property and inheritance.
“As we shifted from matriarchal cultures to patriarchal cultures, men needed a way to make sure that their inheritance was safe”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 19:55
Pornography
Nadège contends that porn is a symptom rather than the problem, pointing to social media and romantic comedies as comparable issues.
“no, porn is a symptom. But if you're going to look at porn as the problem, you're missing the whole”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 14:09
Open relationships
Nadège argues that opening a relationship often strengthens couples, and that a relationship which ends after opening likely had other underlying problems.
“if opening up a relationship made the relationship end, it was probably because of something else”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 9:06
Mismatched libido
Nadège advises couples with mismatched libidos to first accept the situation and then expand their definition of sex beyond penetration.
“What if sex is mutual masturbation? So now we have a whole appetite of things we can do”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 6:27
Sexual desire and gender socialization
Nadège argues that women are just as sexual as men but are socialized to satisfy sexual needs through solo pleasure or abstinence because of slut-shaming.
“But women are just as horny. But in a world where women are taught that if you're sexual, you're a slut, and if you're a slut, you're of lower value”
Digital Social Hour: Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005 (Jun 7, 2026) · Listen from 12:39
Appearances
Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadège | DSH #2005Digital Social Hour · Jun 7, 2026 · 52 min
Sex scholar Nadège tells Sean Kelly about shame, mismatched libidos, open relationships, the history of marriage, the manosphere, simps, masculinity, and astrology.
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- Sean Kelly · 1 shared episode