What Oz Pearlman has said about Conversation skills

Pearlman recommends not asking the first three standard questions like where someone is from or what they do, since they trigger autopilot answers.

“I think the most important thing is the first three questions you want to ask that person, don't. Because that's what everyone else asks”

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Pearlman advises never asking yes-or-no questions because they let people close conversational doors.

“Never ask a yes or no question or a question that ends with a period because what you're doing then is you're allowing people to close doors”

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Pearlman advises stopping once you've said what you need to, noting that in negotiations the last speaker usually loses.

“Here's my offer. And then let them continue talking because most of the time, the person who speaks last in a negotiation loses”

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