What Priya Parker has said about Healthy conflict

Parker argues society oscillates between avoidance and destructive conflict.

“We oscillate between unhealthy peace and unhealthy conflict. We either avoid exit ghost or we burn the freaking house down”

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Parker contends that conflict signals relevance because people only fight about what they care about.

“it is conflict is relevance. Conflict is we don't fight about the things we don't care about”

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Parker recounts that a manager's weekly rose-and-thorn practice changed team meetings by normalizing sharing difficulties within about eight weeks.

“But by the eighth week, the rest of the meeting began to change because they started normalizing thorns”

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Parker argues a leader's relationship to conflict becomes the group's relationship to conflict.

“whatever your relationship to conflict is, it's going to be the group's relationship to conflict”

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