Disappearance of Jay Hickey

Event in True Crime

Disappearance of Jay Hickey has come up in 1 episode across 1 podcast in TMT, including Bear Brook. 3 people have made recorded remarks about it.

What people said

Kay Danko said it was easier to believe Patty killed Jay than to picture him dying alone after wandering off.
“Which maybe that's why it's easier for me to believe that she killed him and she just won't admit it”
Bear Brook: A Private Matter, Episode 4 (Nov 4, 2026) · Listen from 19:00
Kay Danko said that around 2007 she warned Jay that Patty would kill him if he took her back.
“i said if you take her back she will kill you someday”
Bear Brook: A Private Matter, Episode 4 (Nov 4, 2026) · Listen from 17:57
Kay Danko said she was not surprised by Jay's disappearance and immediately thought Patty had killed him.
“It did not surprise me one bit when I heard that my stepdad was missing. And my initial thought was she killed him”
Bear Brook: A Private Matter, Episode 4 (Nov 4, 2026) · Listen from 17:26

Kathy O'Mara said she told Patty it was not a private matter because Jay's children deserved to know.
“no, it's not a private matter, Pat, because you have kids, and those kids deserve to know what their father is”
Bear Brook: A Private Matter, Episode 4 (Nov 4, 2026) · Listen from 24:07
Kathy O'Mara recounted that Patty told her by phone that she had found Jay dead near the old foundation after he wandered off.
“she said, you know, I found him. He was dead when I found him. And I said, well, what happened? She said, well, he went off”
Bear Brook: A Private Matter, Episode 4 (Nov 4, 2026) · Listen from 23:00

Brian Michael said the case is personal to him and will haunt him throughout his career until Jay is found.
“it's one of the ones that's going to haunt me for my career until we can find him”
Bear Brook: A Private Matter, Episode 4 (Nov 4, 2026) · Listen from 16:02
Brian Michael said he could not comprehend how a wife could fail to report her husband missing for a significant time.
“how you could not report your husband missing is absolutely beyond anything ethically or morally that I can comprehend”
Bear Brook: A Private Matter, Episode 4 (Nov 4, 2026) · Listen from 8:30

A Private Matter, Episode 4
Bear Brook · Nov 4, 2026 · 45 min
Jason Moon examines why police haven't charged Patty Hickey, a phone call that prompted a new search for Jay Hickey, and the science of finding lost people with dementia.