What Dolly Chugh has said about Behavior change
3 quotes · 1 episode · Aug 27, 2026
Dolly Chugh, Social psychologist, behavioral scientist and professor at NYU Stern School of Business, has been quoted on Behavior change 3 times in 1 episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, most recently on August 27, 2026. Each quote below is verbatim and links to the moment it was said.
In their words
Chugh says most mental activity is small automatic thoughts rather than conscious ones, citing a study of roughly 11 million thoughts in a finger snap.
“in that snap of the fingers, 11 million... little tea thoughts. They say maybe like 40 big tea thoughts, actual thoughts”
The Mel Robbins Podcast: Stop Wasting Your Time: How to Deal With People Who Won’t Change & What to Do Instead (Aug 27, 2026) · Listen from 8:15
Chugh recommends ending each day by asking what you learned and whether you tried your best rather than whether you succeeded.
“Not did I get it right or wrong? It's what did I learn and did I try my best?”
The Mel Robbins Podcast: Stop Wasting Your Time: How to Deal With People Who Won’t Change & What to Do Instead (Aug 27, 2026) · Listen from 26:57
Chugh states there are only three things you can do to help someone change and that you cannot make anyone change.
“You can model change. You can invite change. You can reward change. But you cannot make anyone change”
The Mel Robbins Podcast: Stop Wasting Your Time: How to Deal With People Who Won’t Change & What to Do Instead (Aug 27, 2026) · Listen from 32:39
Episodes
Stop Wasting Your Time: How to Deal With People Who Won’t Change & What to Do InsteadThe Mel Robbins Podcast · Aug 27, 2026 · 1 h 10 min
Mel Robbins and social psychologist Dolly Chugh discuss why people resist change and research-backed tools for influencing others without nagging.