What Kelly McDaniel has said about Mother hunger

McDaniel defines mother hunger as the absence of one or more of three needs in formative years: nurturing, protection, and guidance.

“So mother hunger means one of three things went missing, or maybe all three of them went missing in your formative years”

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McDaniel says mother hunger affects men as well as women.

“Men felt this. Women felt this. Mother hunger impacts everyone because we're all little human babies at one point”

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McDaniel says unmet attachment needs grow rather than disappear, requiring people to become their own mothers.

“It will require that now you become your own mother”

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McDaniel advises against assuming siblings will be receptive, since each child effectively has a different mother.

“Siblings in a family are all going to have a different mother, even if it's the same mother”

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