What Stan Tatkin has said about Secure functioning relationships
1 quote · 1 episode · Sep 5, 2026
Stan Tatkin, American psychologist, couples therapist and author, founder of the PACT Institute, has been quoted on Secure functioning relationships once in 1 episode of Modern Wisdom, most recently on September 5, 2026. Each quote below is verbatim and links to the moment it was said.
In their words
Tatkin argues love must be earned daily through deliberate design of the relationship rather than relied on as a feeling.
“I think I prefer earned love, earned love on a daily basis by knowing how to hack the brain, the neuroendocrine system”
Modern Wisdom: Couples Therapist: Why Your Brain Turns Your Partner Into An Enemy - Stan Tatkin -#1146 (Sep 5, 2026) · Listen from 0:54
Episodes
Couples Therapist: Why Your Brain Turns Your Partner Into An Enemy - Stan Tatkin -#1146Modern Wisdom · Sep 5, 2026 · 1 h 9 min
Couples therapist Stan Tatkin tells Chris Williamson why attachment biology, threat memory and the absence of explicit agreements wreck long-term relationships.
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