What Vanessa Van Edwards has said about Three levels of conversation

2 quotes · 1 episode · Sep 10, 2026

Vanessa Van Edwards, Behavioral researcher, bestselling author, and founder of Science of People, has been quoted on Three levels of conversation 2 times in 1 episode of The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett, most recently on September 10, 2026. Each quote below is verbatim and links to the moment it was said.

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Van Edwards says "What's your story?" is a level-three question that is too advanced as an opener.
“So extroverts tend to default to that question because they want to go a little bit deeper. But actually, that is a level three question”
The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett: Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People Unlikable (Sep 10, 2026) · Listen from 11:29
Van Edwards argues that very smart people often shut down connection by fact-checking others' dreams.
“And very smart people tend to dream kill by accident and it shuts down connection completely”
The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett: Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People Unlikable (Sep 10, 2026) · Listen from 1:03:51

Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People Unlikable
The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett · Sep 10, 2026 · 2 h 27 min
Behavioral researcher Vanessa Van Edwards tells Steven Bartlett about her three-level conversation framework, over-talking, self-narratives, five story archetypes and the cues behind charisma.