What James Sexton has said about Marriage and long-term partnership

Sexton argues couples should openly name changes in their relationship, distinguishing designed relationships from ones on default.

“I think it's the difference between a relationship that's designed and a relationship that's on default”

Modern Wisdom: James Sexton, Matt McCusker & Rick Glassman - Mostly Wise #4 - #1156 (Sep 28, 2026) · Listen from 1:15:02

Sexton recounts a therapist advising him never to yell at a teenager because it signals loss of control.

“whatever's coming out of your mouth, if you're yelling, what you're telling a teenager is I'm out of control”

Modern Wisdom: James Sexton, Matt McCusker & Rick Glassman - Mostly Wise #4 - #1156 (Sep 28, 2026) · Listen from 1:36:48

Sexton argues that women have always been the gatekeepers of sex, using leg shaving as an example.

“have always been the gatekeepers of sex, like 100% of the time. And the example I've always given to this is that women don't like shaving their legs”

Modern Wisdom: James Sexton, Matt McCusker & Rick Glassman - Mostly Wise #4 - #1156 (Sep 28, 2026) · Listen from 1:42:28