Memory reconstruction and unreliability
Subject in Social Sciences
Memory reconstruction and unreliability has come up in 1 episode across 1 podcast in TMT, including Modern Wisdom. 1 person has made recorded remarks about it.
What people said
Stan TatkinAmerican psychologist, couples therapist and author, founder of the PACT Institute
Tatkin says present relationship quality retroactively reshapes how couples remember shared events, making memory arguments pointless.
“Their present state of mind changes our memory, which is why memory is completely unreliable, folks. If you're arguing about memory, you're engaged in something where you're both wrong”
Modern Wisdom: Couples Therapist: Why Your Brain Turns Your Partner Into An Enemy - Stan Tatkin -#1146 (Sep 5, 2026) · Listen from 41:52
Tatkin argues the only way to change the past is to change the future, since memories cannot be erased.
“You can't get rid of these memories and you don't want to”
Modern Wisdom: Couples Therapist: Why Your Brain Turns Your Partner Into An Enemy - Stan Tatkin -#1146 (Sep 5, 2026) · Listen from 34:42
Podcasts
- Modern Wisdom · 1 episode
Episodes
Couples Therapist: Why Your Brain Turns Your Partner Into An Enemy - Stan Tatkin -#1146Modern Wisdom · Sep 5, 2026 · 1 h 9 min
Couples therapist Stan Tatkin tells Chris Williamson why attachment biology, threat memory and the absence of explicit agreements wreck long-term relationships.