Self-sabotage in relationships
Subject in Relationships
Self-sabotage in relationships has come up in 2 episodes across 2 podcasts in TMT, including On Purpose with Jay Shetty, Call Her Daddy. 2 people have made recorded remarks about it.
What people said
Lucy HaleAmerican actress known for Pretty Little Liars
Hale disagrees with the idea that people must be whole before growing in partnership.
“It is definitely possible to grow within partnership. I think that's like a narrative where like you need to wait until and I'm like, I actually disagree”
On Purpose with Jay Shetty: LUCY HALE: “I Was Sabotaging My Life.” (Sep 21, 2026) · Listen from 49:18
Hale recommends reframing envy as fuel rather than suppressing it.
“I go, oh, wow, look at what they did. I want to do that. That's amazing. Good for them. I don't want to take that from them, but I want to do something like that”
On Purpose with Jay Shetty: LUCY HALE: “I Was Sabotaging My Life.” (Sep 21, 2026) · Listen from 13:54
Hale says shaming and suppressing her natural intensity caused her lasting distress and that the real work is liking disowned parts of oneself.
“dulling that down and having shame about that caused me a lot of distress and pain in my life”
On Purpose with Jay Shetty: LUCY HALE: “I Was Sabotaging My Life.” (Sep 21, 2026) · Listen from 6:39
Alex CooperAmerican podcaster and media entrepreneur, host of Call Her Daddy
Cooper argues fearfully attached people destroy good relationships in order to control the ending rather than risk rejection.
“if I break up with them first or if I cheat or if I pick a massive fight and I make them leave me, at least I'm the one controlling the ending”
Call Her Daddy: Fearful/Disorganized Attachment 101 (Aug 30, 2026) · Listen from 15:33
Cooper says pushing people away preemptively only confirms a fearfully attached person's negative beliefs about themselves.
“you break your own heart to save someone else the trouble”
Call Her Daddy: Fearful/Disorganized Attachment 101 (Aug 30, 2026) · Listen from 8:33
Coverage over time
Podcasts
- On Purpose with Jay Shetty · 1 episode
- Call Her Daddy · 1 episode
Episodes
LUCY HALE: “I Was Sabotaging My Life.”On Purpose with Jay Shetty · Sep 21, 2026 · 1 h 24 min
Actress Lucy Hale tells Jay Shetty about self-sabotage, early fame, four years of sobriety, freezing her eggs and finding healthy love.
Fearful/Disorganized Attachment 101Call Her Daddy · Aug 30, 2026 · 47 min
Alex Cooper concludes her attachment style series with a solo explainer on fearful (disorganized) attachment, trauma bonds, and healing.