What Natalie Vartanian has said about Marriage and long-term partnership

Vartanian argues that the romantic side of a relationship must be actively nurtured or it will die.

“Lovership actually needs to be cultivated. It's like a plant. If you don't feed it, if you don't talk to it”

Notes from the Edge: How do you stop performing in your marriage? Somatic Healing in Intimate Relationships with Natalie Vartanian & Glenn Nielsen (Oct 1, 2026) · Listen from 35:01

Vartanian argues that the common framing of relationships as 'hard work' is destructive to how people approach them.

“i think it's very destructive to the way we look at doing the work in relationship and why people are like oh it's hard work”

Notes from the Edge: How do you stop performing in your marriage? Somatic Healing in Intimate Relationships with Natalie Vartanian & Glenn Nielsen (Oct 1, 2026) · Listen from 40:14