What Shadé Zahrai has said about Locus of control
2 quotes · 1 episode · May 11, 2026
Shadé Zahrai, Behavioral researcher, confidence expert and author of Big Trust, with a PhD in organizational behavior from Monash University, has been quoted on Locus of control 2 times in 1 episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, most recently on May 11, 2026. Each quote below is verbatim and links to the moment it was said.
In their words
Zahrai claims chronic complaining strengthens neural pathways that make complaining a default.
“they are reliving the situation in vivid detail in their brain. which is creating deeper, more efficient neural pathways, which makes complaining your default”
The Mel Robbins Podcast: How to Eliminate Self-Doubt Forever & Build Unshakeable Confidence (May 11, 2026) · Listen from 45:24
Zahrai advises swapping 'should' for 'could' because 'should' triggers reactance and cuts off divergent thinking.
“research also shows that the language of should cuts off divergent thinking. We don't think as clearly. We don't think of solutions”
The Mel Robbins Podcast: How to Eliminate Self-Doubt Forever & Build Unshakeable Confidence (May 11, 2026) · Listen from 51:09
Episodes
How to Eliminate Self-Doubt Forever & Build Unshakeable ConfidenceThe Mel Robbins Podcast · May 11, 2026 · 1 h 19 min
Mel Robbins talks with behavioral researcher Dr. Shadé Zahrai about her four-part framework—acceptance, agency, autonomy, adaptability—for overcoming self-doubt and building confidence.
Others on Locus of control
- Peter Gray · 2 quotes
Shadé Zahrai on other topics
- Self-doubt · 4 quotes
- Self-acceptance · 3 quotes
- Career imprinting · 1 quote
- Voice and speech clarity · 1 quote
- Body language · 1 quote
- Worry time (stimulus control) · 1 quote
- Impostor syndrome · 1 quote
- Positive affirmations · 1 quote